Our beliefs result in our emotions. Do you ever pause long enough to get still and ask yourself if the belief you have in your mind is true? Is it true? Plain and simple, right? WRONG! You are likely so darn busy that pausing is not a natural behavior.
Next time something happens, humor me and try the following:
- Stop and notice the event that took place.
- Notice what you believe to have happened.
- Notice why you believe it happened.
- What emotion(s) are you feeling in your body both physically and emotionally?
- Now, ask yourself “Is my belief absolutely true?”
- What else could have been the reason it happened.
- Think of two or three other more positive, “good-feeling” reasons the event might have happened.
- Notice how you feel with these other more positive reasons.
Our ego lives in the past and future. Our mind has the power to live in the present moment. When we take time to be still and really think about what we make of something that happens, we see things more clearly. We become less reactive, less emotionally wrapped up in the why, and simply see it as an event.
Just because something happened in the past for a reason which creates a belief does not mean that all similar occurrences happen in the future for the same reason. Byron Katie has an excellent worksheet called “Judge Your Neighbor” that I encourage you to try out to go deeper into assessing whether you are the source of your own suffering.
Choose happy and learn to let go of what is not serving you and surround yourself with what makes your heart sing.
Health & happiness,
Life & Health Coach
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